Are you your own worst boss?

I was listening to the Tim Ferris Podcast this morning with Seth Godin.

They were talking about lots and lots of things but this stuck out to me.

From an excerpt from Seth Godin’s Blog back in December of this past year:

The World’s Worst Boss:

That would be you.

Even if you’re not self-employed, your boss is you. You manage your career, your day, your responses. You manage how you sell your services and your education and the way you talk to yourself.

Odds are, you’re doing it poorly.

If you had a manager that talked to you the way you talked to you, you’d quit. If you had a boss that wasted as much of your time as you do, they’d fire her. If an organization developed its employees as poorly as you are developing yourself, it would soon go under. I’m amazed at how often people choose to fail when they go out on their own or when they end up in one of those rare jobs that encourages one to set an agenda and manage themselves. Faced with the freedom to excel, they falter and hesitate and stall and ultimately punt.

We are surprised when someone self-directed arrives on the scene. Someone who figures out a way to work from home and then turns that into a two-year journey, laptop in hand, as they explore the world while doing their job. We are shocked that someone uses evenings and weekends to get a second education or start a useful new side business. And we’re envious when we encounter someone who has managed to bootstrap themselves into happiness, as if that’s rare or even uncalled for.

This is important. Especially for me as a coach.

Because THIS IS THE SHIT WE WORK ON.

Self-management

Time Management

Making Good Decisions

Creating sustainable habits

Dialing in our everyday

Minimalizing distractions

Being the best damn boss of ourselves we can be.

Coaches exist to take our own life into our own hands and set it off in the direction of our dreams. We help people get out of their own way, work on their personal beliefs systems about how they feel about themselves. We work with clients to help them overcome negative self-talk and remove habits that hurt us, our goals, and our relationships?

Are you the world’s worst boss of yourself? Do the words in Seth Godin’s essay resonate with you? Considering hiring a coach, sitting down and talking one-on-one with what kind of person you want to be and how to get there.

Interested in coaching? Schedule an appointment with me here: https://calendly.com/vivant-coaching/mini-session

 

 

Episode #5 with Jaime Messina!

I personally adore her, although we have never met in person.

Jaime is an inspiring fitness influencer on social media. Her emphasis on health, mental wellness, and her love for being an Aunt bring a lot of joy, hope, and inspiration to my social feeds.

I loved having her on the podcast because she BLOOMS.

Her story is inspiring and her work is amazing. I’m so honored to introduce you to her.

 

Check it out!

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-bloom-method-podcast-episode-6-with-guest-jamie-messina/id1399104144?i=1000418090022&mt=2

Your Personal Environment

So a couple years ago I attended a transformation coaching seminar and the instructor was coach Chris Lee.

Chris Lee is also Lewis Howes, from the School of Greatness podcast, coach. So this guy is major and he is on the podcast often.

During one of his recent interviews with Lewis, he talked about your “Personal Environment” and he doesn’t go deep into that idea in the podcast but I have been chewing on this concept for months.

I believe in stewardship deeply. Being responsible, being a good neighbor, making sure that those who are in my personal environment comfortable.

My husband and I are on Daufuskie Island in South Carolina. During our stay we make sure to talk to the local people who live here, support small businesses and clean up trash alongside the roads. She is just a little island, but we have so much love for it and we feel like we are being good stewards of the place we love to visit.

So how do we become good stewards of ourselves? And our personal environment?

I have

been really thinking about this deeply and truly.

While on vacation a lot of stuff comes up for me. My health, my weight, am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing? And I’ve decided that I’m done wasting my vacation and relaxation time because I haven’t done the work daily so that I can enjoy the week fully.

Daily Work

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Daily work of doing what my body needs, doing the everyday menial tasks, making the tough choices so that when it’s time to rest and play, all is tidy nothing is in limbo.

Getting things on the calendar ahead of time.

Checking it and updating it every day.

Knowing where I want to spend my time and energy.

Resting when I need to rest.

Setting an alarm to wake up daily at the same time.

Knocking down a mile so my brain and body are healthy.

Eating the right things so that when I indulge I’m not rattled with guilt.

Making sure my brain in under control and I’m not indulging in obsessive thinking or negative self-talk

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Knowing Where You Are Going

Setting Goals

Knowing who you are and what you want

Changing and taking action so that you are happy with who you are

Seeking guidance when you are lost

Being in control of your own life, time and destiny

Being Responsible

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For your words

Being a leader in your own life

Being honest

Communicating feelings and resolving differences

Creating healthy boundaries for those who aren’t adding to your life experience in a positive way

Making sure you are mentally healthy! It’s YOUR responsibility!

 

 

 

We create environments everywhere we are. Your home is an environment, your car, your office, and you are responsible for being a good steward.

Keep that grass cut, water the flowers, plant new things, pull out the dead ones, and put some fun music on. I’ll bring drinks.

Talk to you next week,

Alissa