There is no feeling I relate to more or actively seek in my life than joy.
Joy reminds me of sunshine and smiling.
Watching children giggle and play.
So how do we restore joy in our lives?
How do we find the good and all the beauty that goes with it?
Especially after we have sustained hardship for long periods of time?
When I am dealing with a particularly difficult time in my life, and it feels unbearable, we can find joy in simple things:
- Beautiful place setting
- Cooking a healthy meal
- Walks in the woods
Taking time out to be present with beauty, simplicity, nourishment and a reminder that we are separate from our circumstances and we can honor our bodies and ourselves in this place.
Another option is to seek out long term joy.
Goal setting and showing up daily or several times a week to grow and change.
This could be a physical change or an online course for business.
It could be the creation of an art project.
Whatever this looks like to you, the daily effort to create will often cause strife and frustration as we grow through it.
But on the other side of this effort lies joy, confidence, capability and personal evolution.
Watching a funny movie, going through old photos, anything that can bring joy back to your heart.
We can always create an intention for more joy in our lives.
When we seek an emotional experience, it makes it easier to recognize what aligns with that feeling and what does not. This is a different approach to change in our life. Whereas some may seek to achieve or create goals and accomplish them, we can always seek something a little more pervasive, our desired emotional state.
When I was a new Mom with 3 boys very close in age (one year apart) I was a WRECK. I was tired, I was exhausted. My husband worked constantly and I was at home with my three little boys alone. I was suffering, I was angry, tired, lost, resentful, I didn’t know who I was and I definitely didn’t know where to start. So one day I decided I wanted a feeling, and that feeling was sweetness.
I began to notice their little smiles as I changed their diapers. I began to see the beauty and innocence in their behavior and I began to shift out of the victimhood, pressure, and insanity that I had been living with. I took them to parks and we packed little lunches. I took them on drives out to the county where they would just sleep and I would watch cows and sheep walk on green grassy fields and listen to their sweet deep breathing in the back seat.
I was taking back my life and it looked like sweetness.
Things weren’t perfect but they were headed in the right direction.
You can apply joy in your life in the same way. If you seek joy you will find it. When we seek what we want we will find yourself noticing things that bring us joy.
You can replace joy with whatever feeling you have in your heart but I ask you to seek the feeling you desire most and see what happens in your life.
*Danielle LaPorte’s Book the Desire Map is an excellent resource and workbook for seeking the emotional state we desire. You can find it on Amazon here: https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B00H7MKSRY&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_PxOFCbQBJV6EZ