A friend and I were recently talking about relieving and releasing anger.
She had told me that she was told that road rage was a safe place to release anger. Being angry in traffic had very few consequences and it was a good place to let things out.
At first, I was like, “hmm that’s really interesting”.
Releasing those feelings of anger and moving them out of your body energetically is seemingly very important, and we all know that when our feelings are left to fester inside of us they tend to grow and become scarier monsters.
But what I’m beginning to understand about my personal behavioral changes, neuroplasticity and mental “training”, is that when we encourage those kinds of reactions, they become habitual and we build and solidify our neuropathways, automating that behavior.
It is possible to become addicted to being angry.
It is possible to become addicted to being resentful.
There is a win in there, there is a reward.
Adrenaline, placing blame for our emotional well-being outside of our own responsibility, feeling right!
Ego, dude, ego.
But from a chemical standpoint, our body changes towards this behavior and these behaviors become our PERSONALITY.
Reinforcing what we are sometimes looking to release.
Right now I am dieting, I am eating on a plan and I try not to go outside of that planned eating schedule.
I almost ate a breadstick today and I said no to myself and I didn’t eat it.
I almost ate coffee cake and instead, I said no and didn’t eat it.
When I first started, I said no and did eat it.
But as I overcame my thoughts and patterns, a positively reinforced behavioral change has taken its place.
The brain LOVES accomplishment.
Thus driving motivation, recreating and strengthening automated behavior.
So if there is a pattern, for example, of snapping at your spouse for ______ and you want to change it, redirect that behavior to something else.
Have a plan, rewire that behavior, YOU ARE IN CHARGE. It may not seem like it at first, but you are, and you can overcome your physical, emotional and hormonal impulses to get the results that you want.
It is possible.
It is difficult.
It is doable.
So to all of you out there, struggling to make a change, remember that it is NORMAL.
You are literally changing your brain, and that takes time.
Everytime you succeed, take notice.
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